I have written A lady A letter about me.
Also stating that we would have A big difference in age.
She is 28..and I am 50.so I did ask would that be A problem??
Her answer seem positive. But I never really expected such A positief reply.
Gould she really have no problem with the fact that I am much older???? I hope to learn more about social behaivior and relationships with Chinese lady`s ???
Thank you in advance.
Gilles
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15 Nov, 2006 09:15:11
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Have you heard the true love story between the physical scientist,Zhenning Yang, and her wife Fan Weng? Zhenning Yang is 82 years old while his wife Fan Weng is only 28 years old. You can see there is no age difference when facing the true love, do you think so?
So if you are mutual interesting in each other, you may give both a chance.
Jason
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12 Dec, 2006 21:46:41
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Conversly I'm well younger than alot of you gent's here, I'm wondering if that will be an issue, as I'm likely here for the same reasons many of you are,I'm reasonably successfull and don't have alot of time for dating, want a family facinated with the culture and values, obviously the physical attraction to asian ladies(That i doubt any of us openly admitted on here until just now :)
But i've noticed quite a trend where they marry much older, I'm just concerned that as a younger man I may be seen as a waste of time
Aaron
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07 Jan, 2007 10:22:02
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I live in China and the age issue may depend on whether the lady has been married or not. If she is divorced with a child, then she is not worried about having another family, but he main cincern is security. Ladies here tell me many chinese men don't want to marry a lady with a child. Age may not be a big factor , as the a western man of 50 has values similar the a chinese woman in her late 20s. there is a big difference in social conditioning of CChinese women in there 40s and 50s and the more modern chinese woman
Alan
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24 Mar, 2007 13:18:39
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Hello Aaron, please can you explain what you mean by there is a big difference in social conditioning of CChinese women in there 40s and 50s and the more modern chinese woman"
It's all very new to me.
Alan
thomas
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28 Mar, 2007 20:50:32
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Robin, Why did u pick the 28 year old? Man look I am older too and there is no way i amrry a 28 year old girl and I am 40. I think you are using your ego and this girl is ur trophy wife. But hey i hope i am wrong but dont cry if she ends up leaving u after she gets her citizenship and finds a guy her age. remeber only rock stars and movie stars have young trophy wives and they rotate them because they can 1. afford the divorce and 2. they are rock starrs and movie stars they can get a replacement. So man save ur heart and find an older one. they are just as beautiful and u will never worry about her leaving u. the young one u will worry about her leaving u all the time. U will always look over ur soldier. but ur choice and I hope I am wrong.
Mike
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30 May, 2007 23:42:57
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Let's be honest here. Who among us isn't interested in a younger wife? I like younger women. I'm 52. I'm courting a beautiful woman who is 33 years old and never married. She doesn't like Chinese men; she says they're "chauvinists" -- her word, not mine -- and we seem to have some things in common, not the least of which is helping her achieve her dreams and goals. I'm a kid at heart and don't worry about keeping up with a younger woman; hell, she'll keep me young. What's the old saying that, when people are in love, age is only a number? I guess we'll see if it's true, right?
kan
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18 Jun, 2007 18:40:46
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Hey Guys dont be inordinately bothered by age. People can only generalize because every situation is different. From what I have seen of the women in ChnLove, many of them seem sincere, looking for genuine love. The difference in age would depend on how each individual sees marriage and relationships. Any man who wants a wife must be able to support one so if you are poor and can't support a wife then your chances of success with a Chinese woman will be slim. Not that she is after your money but after the honeymoon marriage is usually about practical matters like going home to visit relatives etc. The same with marriages between couples of the same race. The important thing is to love the one you marry and be committed to the one you have chosen and vice versa. More important than age are ideas and values you have and the willingness to adapt to one another. A woman of twenty whose husband dies twenty years later is still young to re-marry. Twenty years of a good relationship is better than none or a sour one. Men in their fifties and sixties who keep fit and healthy and take care of their minds, bodies and wallets, can marry a woman thirty years younger if they get along well with her and dont feel inordinately self-conscious about age or what other people think or say. Who needs other people's approval for one's own happiness? In looking for a wife dont just think of yourself, think of the other person. You are not buying a bottle of milk in a supermarket or a horse. You are dealing with another human being with the same needs as you and if you find someone who loves you and you can do the same, heck, what is age, if both people are fit and healthy and desire each other? You dont need to be a Rupert Murdoch - just be yourself and a responsible and loving husband.Happy seeking.
ipmala
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04 Jul, 2007 08:03:45
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Depending on where you live in the USA, the "Americanized"
problem becomes a factor--once she starts talking and
socializing with local women her own age, especially at
work. It's especially bad in my city where the divorce rate
is 60% and most of the women are 'bitches' with an attitude
(Detroit, MI). You can't watch her 24 hours a day. What
happens when her girlfriends start 'brainwashing' her and
tell her she needs to get a man her own age ?? Maybe the
only way these marriages will work out is if the man moves to China.
Ipmala
Jeff
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07 Jul, 2007 08:37:06
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A younger Chinese woman and an older foreign guy is not uncommon. However, if you think she'll keep you young think of this; after you have one or two children you'll be working until you're 85!
Bill
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09 Sep, 2007 11:46:26
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OK. I have read the post here. I have to chime in !
I am 49 years old. Yes I'm sure I could get a 20 year old if I wanted to. When I first started ,I had a couple woman in there mid 20's write me.They did want me to visit them and marry me ! Why would I want some one at such a young age? For real not just a trophy wife.
First, I find a more mature looking woman more attractive then a younger one !
Second, I have kids and I don't want to marry one.
My fiancee does have a daughter that is now 17 and she is coming over with her. So I'm not against having more kids ,I just don't want to marry one !
Chinese woman may be more mature then American woman but still at a much younger age ,she is still a kid at heart.
