I am a 31 year old African American man that has been attracted to Asian women for as long as I can remember. However, before my marriage, I never dated an Asian woman. Not that I am divorced, I want to try to pursue a serious relationship, possibly leading to marriage with an Asian woman. My question is, how do Asian women view African American males in the U.S.? Are we looked down upon? Are we seen in a positive light? Are we looked at as possible mates? I am quite aware of our negative image in the media and I assure you that MANY African American males are not like that. I am educated, polite, have manners, I am very respectful to my parents, elders, and everyone in general. I am healthy, I like music of all kinds (including traditional Chinese Classical music), and I have never ever been unfaithful in a relationship. I would like to hear from some of you all here regarding this. If there are any Asian women here, please give feedback. Zai Jian!
Las Vegas, United States
31 Oct, 2009 22:36:16
While in China I seen an info commercial with a product called "Snow White". It's used to make your skin very white! Nothing racial, in general, the lighter your skin, the more acceptance you shall receive! I'm sure there are many Chinese women that would like a dark skin man, the ones I met, didn't like dark skin. The culture is different about things like this, but you never know, unless you try! Good luck!
Crockett, United States
06 Nov, 2009 03:58:47
I just got back from China and The vibe I received was that there aren't that many Chinese ladies attracted to Black men. That being stated, the opposite is true in the Phillipines and Thailand. I dated a PI gal for a few months and 3 of her aunts were married to Black men. You can't group all Asian women in one pot.
London, United Kingdom
12 Nov, 2009 02:52:18
There is now a problem coming about in parts of China with Africans travelling there and trying to get into Hong Kong and thence into Europe or the US.
Big news item the other day here in China.
Seattle, United States
15 Nov, 2009 08:05:01
generally speaking, of course, china still has some ways to go in
moving beyond some traditional biases. black men/women are not
embraced as they may be in western countries or urban environments.
recently, a black female (mother chinese, father black) won top
prize in contest and the responses from many were that she/winner
did not fit the Chinese look, should go back to her continent, get
out of the country, etc
Huntington Beach, United States
27 Nov, 2009 09:29:15
I am a black man who has not experienced the prejudice that comes from other Asians in America. Actually, more and more Chinese adore the "mixed" babies saying they are far cuter than the normal Chinese babies. A lot of them are also very open to black men now that we have a black president Barack Obama. Never has it been a good time to be black and looking for Chinese wife because I was in China while he was there for his visit and they loved the guy so he has given black people a new image in China! Good luck to you brother!
sacramneto, United States
20 Dec, 2009 05:33:05
Well i have been on this site for sometime now (few months) and i have gotten many wonderful looking ladies respond to me and i had a few of the whiter looking one reject me as not a suitable match for them their loss i say but i have been talking to a very nice chinese woman for sometime now and she says her friends ask her why she is with a blackman she said whats is the big deal as long as i am a good man for her. I plan to go out and see her soon in china
san diego, United States
29 Dec, 2009 10:28:37
Having just returned from China, the chinese women do not respond well to African Americans. They have seen too any problems on T.V. and the reputation is not all that good so they are very prejudiced against the darker skin. Chinese women with black men are laughed at by people on the street and the average person thinks the female is a prostitute. The women who have dated black men do not speak well of the experience so this adds to the problem Best to look else where. There are a lot of black women.
Strand, South Africa
30 Dec, 2009 09:18:57
In Africa they marry Black men
31 Dec, 2009 08:14:52
Unfortunately, it's a sad fact but true. Every Chinese women I've dated including my exwife really were not very fond of black people because of all the bad stereotypes on TV and movies. You will find some that can get past it yet the family might dissapprove and never truly accept you even if you love and marry the women. Like the other member stated I'd go the route of the Thailand girls on here that are more openminded.
China Shark Mike
Huntington Beach, United States
10 Apr, 2010 07:45:00
I sat in a busy restaurant with a lady Changsha and all the servers came by to take a look at us sitting there. She finally bent over and said, "They thing you are very handsome and they want to know where you are from." So, it depends on the lady and her position. I will say that the older ladies tend to be bound by useless traditions of the past while the younger ladies are more open.